Church SAFE???

Church....... Safe Place ya??? Thats what is preached?? So define your understanding of SAFE. To me SAFE means we arent going to make you do anything you dont want to do, or dont want to have happen. SAFE Means if I DONT WANT TO BE TOUCHED THEN YOU BETTER NOT TOUCH ME AND RESPECT ME, even if its a hug, or a side hug, ILL LET YOU KNOW WHEN ITS SAFE TO TOUCH ME. To me right now you just blew the biggest, safest place i know. YOu became a threat to me. And You are the one person im supposed to trust with this stuff. How can I do that if you touch me, when i dont want to be touched???? In logical minds Church is the safe place, and I know somewhere in my head no one is going to hurt me there. Or that you arent going to hurt me. But that doesnt stop my panic from being less, I panic because i dont know why. So next time i say DONT TOUCH ME please DONT TOUCH ME unless i offer my hand for a handshake.